Why Is He Acting Hot and Cold? Get the Real Reasons Behind Why He Is Sending Out Mixed Signals

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Is he always uncertain? Is his behavior driving you completely nuts? Do you have days where he acts like he loves you to bits but then you also have days where it seems like he doesn't give a damn about you?

Why can't men just follow a single stream of action? Why do they always do this? Do they do it to make women feel more attracted to them or is it something which occurs naturally?

It's very easy to label your man as disloyal and manipulative when he consistently acts hot and cold. Maybe he is...And maybe he isn't. You can't come to a quick conclusion before you understand the underlying reasons behind why men do this.

Here are some reasons which will help you better understand why men act hot and cold...

Possible reason #1 - He is stuck in the confusing cycle of UNCERTAINTY -

If he is acting hot and cold around you and has been doing it consistently then he is definitely uncertain about his feelings towards you. He is struggling to make up his mind about you.

Several reasons can cause this -

- Maybe he thinks that he can find someone better.

- Maybe he doesn't see a future with you.

- Maybe he just isn't ready for commitment yet.

When a man is at war with his feelings then it shows in his actions and consequently he acts hot and cold.

He will have days where he will want you more than anything else and will act super loving and kind. And at the same time he will have some of those dry periods where in his world - Being around you would be the most irritating thing, thus he will avoid you.

How to tackle this -

The best way to tackle this is to be absolutely direct. Try something along the lines of -

"Matt! It's confuses me when you act really interested and loving some days but then act as if I am the most annoying thing in your life on other days. I am really sorry but I am not sure why you act this way. I believe both of us need a break."

Remember you aren't breaking up with him. You are just telling him that you aren't OK with his present actions and he needs to get his act together.

Some women still stick around when the man is acting hot and cold assuming that things will work out by themselves some day. But the truth is that they never do. You have to do something in order to change the situation or else you will only encounter more pain.

Possible reason #2 - He fears commitment & is scared he might have to sacrifice his FREEDOM.

Have you ever heard of that saying which goes something like- "Men fear being trapped and women fear being abandoned?"

It's true! Men really fear being trapped. They value their sense of freedom more than anything else on this planet.

Therefore he is scared that if he commits to you he might be trapped for life and he might lose the thing he values the most which is - FREEDOM.

If this is the case with your man then there is not a lot you can do because this is his own insecurity. He will have to make efforts to deal with this.

All you can really do is to give him a lot of space. When you feel that he is starting to get distant and acting hot and cold as usual - You should leave him alone.

Don't try to contact him even on the phone. Let him be the first one to get in touch with you. You see, when you let him have enough space he gets the necessary time and freedom to make up his own mind and will come running back to you.

At the same time by giving him space and leaving him alone you are indirectly punishing him for this behavior. Any time a man does something you don't agree with it's important to punish him in some way.

Always remember - Bad behavior when rewarded will be repeated and when punished will be avoided.

Points to remember -

- When a man acts hot and cold he is indirectly telling you that he is uncertain about his feelings & doesn't really know where he wants things to go.

- The best solution is to let him know that you aren't OK with this behavior and need him to sort out his feelings.

- Don't fall into the trap of thinking that he is just going through a phase and eventually he will start to like you again and won't send out mixed signals. Unless you make efforts to let him know that you aren't OK with it. He won't stop doing it.